Friday, October 11, 2013

Wedding Trend #2 : The Return of the Black Tie

The next trend you will see cropping back up in 2014 is the formal attire classification “Black Tie”. You will see in most invitation cards couples state their preferred attire options for their guests, from smart casual to summer chic


Black tie is the 2nd most formal dress code for any event (with “white tie” being the most formal). Who doesn’t like to dress up and paint the town red, a wedding is a great excuse to get all dolled up and to showcase all your latest jewelry.



Formal attire has always been associated with grand affairs and in this case- weddings. But it actually shocked me to find out that not everyone knows the definition of black tie. No, its not that you actually wear a black tie! (And most people actually think that it literally means black tie).



Wikipedia definition: Black tie is a dress code for evening events and social functions derived from British and American costume conventions of the 19th century. Worn only for events after 6 p.m., black tie is less formal than white tie but more formal than informal or business dress. It is also more formal than recent intermediate codes of “creative,” “alternate” or “optional” black tie.

For men, the elements of black tie are a suit, of black or midnight blue wool, in which the jacket lapels and trouser braid are of silk or other contrasting material, a white dress shirt, a black bow-tie, an evening waistcoat or cummerbund, and black dress shoes. Women's dress for black tie occasions has varied greatly through the years; traditionally it was dinner (ankle) or tea (below mid-calf) length sleeveless evening gown, often accompanied by a wrap or stole, gloves, and evening shoes. 


In other words for men; a tux is what we mean by black tie and for ladies; a long or mid calf length evening gown.



Black tie weddings will be celebrated and encouraged this coming year, but don’t forget for every dress code comes a time and a place. If you are having a beach wedding, please don't put your guests through a sauna by making them come in a tux.



Go forth confidently and dress accordingly.



** My wedding dress code for the beach was “Photography Friendly” and for the KL carnival “Come As You Are”. But that's just me being I!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Wedding Trends for 2014


-->A new year is approaching and with all the excitement of the upcoming holidays couples are gearing into their wedding plans. Let’s discuss the few wedding trends that we foresee will crop up. Follow our wedding ramblings till the end of the year.

1001 Themes
Back in the day, themes were a myth. Your mother and grandmothers would just select their favorite color for each item resulting in pink bouquets, brown linens and blue suits -a multitude of colors on one day.

Now, themes are a must. With couple clamoring to “beat the Joneses” a wedding without a theme is like a marching band without the drums. So the past few years we’ve seen all kinds of themes emerge and every couple putting their flavor into each wedding design to call their own.

The trend for next year is the mother of all theme’s, a layering of themes on top of themes from a particular monogram (as a theme) that is seen on all your stationary to the shade of a color (as a theme) on all your attire to a thematic concept (as a theme) such as a love bird concept seen in all your decoration and finally a particular flowers (as a theme) in all your arrangements.

A multitude of themes for one wedding may sound a little anal, but trust me we are definitely getting there. For the couple, they get to share more about themselves with their guests making the wedding more intimate. For the planner, we get to think outside the box and let our creativity shine so we love themes!

For all you potential bridezillas keep in mind 2 main things when planning your layering of themes; 

1) Less is more. Having too many things in play will look like your concept is all over the place. 

2) Honestly, only you and your wedding planner will know what themes are even in play no one else will bother, pay attention to or admire. 

Sad but true.

5 Tips on how to choose your Perfect Wedding Planner

First off, you deserve a big hug for deciding you need a wedding planner. Couple’s who don't have wedding planners need to rely on their friends and family to really be the backbone of the wedding and this means friends and family cannot enjoy the party.

The first thing you need to do, is research to select a few wedding planners that are available on your wedding date and that you feel suits your style and budget. Then arrange for a meeting in a comfortable, quiet and calm environment for you to interview your wedding planner (and your wedding planner to interview you).

You should know that not all wedding planners are created equal. On paper, their services may all look similar (or identical), but every planner’s services are different because the planners themselves are different. Here’s some tips on how to navigate through your meeting with your prospective planners and how to decide who is the best fit for you and your wedding.


Tip # 1: Recommendations
Ask friends and family for referrals. Research options online and when you find a planner you’re interested in, look at their website, read their client reviews, fan them on Facebook, follow them on pinterest, even read their blog if they have one. This gives you a great idea of who they are before you even step in their door.

Tip # 2: Style, Taste and Connection
Don't be afraid to ask questions, you want to hear their ideas and concepts, their opinions and recommendations so that you can gauge their character. This gives you an idea whether the planner’s taste and style suits your own. You should also be able to “click” with your planner because you will be spending a lot of time with them and if you don’t like spending time with them, why hire them? Your planner will be your best friend for the next few months.

Tip # 3: Scope of Work
Most wedding planners have either a full service package or a on-the -day package, be honest about where you need help. If you don't have the time and patience to plan the entire wedding, get the planner for the full deal. Be comfortable with the planner’s package and be up front about what you expect from the start so that everyone knows the direction of the wedding.

Tip # 4: Portfolio
Look through their portfolio and let the planner explain about their previous weddings, you will then get an idea of the planner’s design aesthetics and style. Ask about certain elements that stand out to you and ask for insights of how the planner handles the design and concept of the wedding plus the different vendors involved.

Tip # 5: Listen
You want to get someone that listens to you and someone you will listen to. After all, you are getting a professional for his/her professional opinion so you must feel that you can trust your planner’s opinion and recommendation and that you will listen to the planner’s ideas.

Happy hunting!

Five Crazy Reasons Why You Must Hire A Wedding Planner (Things that wedding planners will never tell you but wishes you knew)

You have been dreaming about your wedding ever since you were a little girl or if you have not got a clue about where to start, and now that you’re engaged you are excited/ overwhelmed about the planning process.

Let me give you a little insight, planning a wedding isn’t all fun and games, there’s a lot to do to prepare for your big day! Here are some secrets as to what a wedding planner does for you (that you don't know about) so that you can judge whether or not you need to hire a wedding planner.

I feel like a therapist ….
When I am forced to step in to help with family drama. My insight is to be polite, respectful and neutral (which depending on the situation may be challenging even for me). Often, meddlesome people just want to be heard out and sometimes need to be appreciated. Since I’m an independent third party, I’m able to bring neutrality to emotionally charged situations and offer a fair solution.

I do manual labor and other dreadful tasks…
I cannot even tell you how many times I’ve been on my hands and knees, sweating. I sometimes have to count the napkins and linens before they go back to the rental company. I’m talking dirty, smelly napkins, with food, gum and whatever else is on them. Talk about gross!
Or at almost every wedding help the bride wear her shoes, to getting under her skirt to bustle the gown and at the most recent event I even had to pack up a wedding suite of strewn dirty clothes and intimate wear so that the bride could be surprised at the upgraded suite the hotel was giving them. 

Just because you got cheaper rates online ...
Doesn’t mean you can do my job better than I can. Yes, you may have found lower rates on certain websites or online offers, but you don’t have access to the contract and package perks that I’m able to negotiate. Plus you got a wedding planner to help you with the logistics, the stress and the planning of your entire wedding. Not just because you wanted cheap rates, an offer always has its hidden terms. 

This is a full time job and then some…
On the big day we are steaming the bridal gown, pinning boutonnieres, making sure that the time lines are being met, making sure there are no spots on the glasses, allowing gum to be spit out in our hands before the ceremony, using our pockets as dustbins for your sweaty tissues, writing the groom’s speech at the last minute and the list goes on! Basically dealing with any situations that arise and ensuring that everything runs like clockwork.

We are quick on our feet…
I had a situation once where the florist forgot one of the bridesmaids bouquets. Within minutes I had one ready for her by gathering some flowers from the centerpiece arrangements and ribbons that I had in my emergency kit.

At another wedding as the lovebird’s ice carving was being wheeled into the venue, the waiter tripped and the birds fell slicing off their heads. Within 30 minutes we manage to bring in the resident band to perform for dinner and the ice carving was never missed. 

You get what you pay for…
The biggest mistake you can make is choosing the cheapest vendors in the hopes of saving money. Really research your vendors, because you truly get what you pay for.
We know some trade secrets and with our connections, we catch information about other vendors through the grapevine. Trust us when we disagree with your choice of vendors, there is always a valid reason. 

Having said that, most wedding planners are passionate about their work and for me all I need is a guest (someone I don't know) who comes up to you at a wedding and say “That was a job well done, it was a fantastic wedding” and all the sweat, blood and tears are forgotten. Even for the most challenging wedding I have even planned, when I look back at the photos all I have is great memories  and good friends.

Monday, February 25, 2013

An interview with Eileen & Leticia on How Wedding Pros Charge What They're Worth


An interview with Eileen & Leticia on How Wedding Pros Charge What They're Worth
 
Do you consult with all potential bridal clients, or do you attempt to “pre-qualify” clients in regard to budget before you meet?

Leticia : When new clients contact us, we try to “pre-qualify” them as best we can. It’s important to do this as to not waste the client's time as well as you own. Our starting prices are listed directly on our website, which has helped with the “pre-qualifying” because the client is already aware of where our pricing begins and isn’t blindsided when we share it with them on the phone.

Eileen : Both. I am happy to talk to anyone interested in our services, but I don’t want to waste their time or mine if we are not a good fit. So I ask a few clarifying questions to understand their needs and expectations.
With regard to money, “budget” is not always the best determiner because they often have no idea how much what they want costs. It doesn’t always mean they don’t have the money--more often they don’t understand how to use the money they have to get what they want. I never dismiss someone because the first number they throw out is low, because that is almost never the real number.

How do you suss out budget issues? Is the client usually forthcoming, or do you have to dig for the truth?

Leticia : We try to explain the importance of a budget. We try to be as upfront as possible about asking if a client has determined a budget for themselves or if they need assistance creating a “realistic” budget for the type of wedding they are hoping to have. I have not had any problems with the approach, and our clients appreciate our straightforwardness about it.

Many planners are uncomfortable asking about budget, but it’s necessary to guide the client in the right direction for their wedding. I want to make sure we’re making recommendations that fit within their budget and are realistic options for them. Otherwise you’re just wasting their time, and this can lead to frustration and other trust issues with the client, which is never a good situation.

Eileen : When it comes to money, people are not always completely frank, but that is usually because they have heard bad things about wedding pros and are worried. For me, the first step is building trust so they feel comfortable telling me the whole truth about what they have to spend. Then I can help them use the money they have to get as much as possible for those dollars.
It has been my experience that once they are comfortable you are not out to rob their piggy bank, they will tell you everything.

How willing are clients to come to grips with the fact that their dream wedding will cost more than they expect it to?

Leticia : I think ultimately there is a sense of shock when everything they’re dreaming of is priced out and right in front of them for the first time. Once the initial shock wears off, it’s important to have an honest conversation about what the wedding can look like based on the amount they are willing to spend.
Smart decisions are important to preserving pieces of the dream wedding. I think giving them components of the dream wedding within budget is important and can really show how valuable having an experienced wedding planner can be.

Eileen : Willing, never. But if you frame the conversation correctly and, again, build trust, you can soften the blows and help them prioritize what makes the dream and what the dream really doesn’t need. It is all in how you present the information. I never say "no" or "you can’t afford it"; I explain why spending less or doing something differently will improve the wedding.

What strategies do you use to show you are worth what you charge?

Leticia : I feel that our work speaks for itself a lot of time. However, I feel that press coverage we have received, referrals from their friends who have worked with us, and referrals from other vendors all help provide a high level of comfort in our competence and experience. Our clients understand the value in what things cost.

Cheap is cheap for a reason. They are not comfortable trusting their daughter's wedding day to someone who does this as a hobby or new to the industry. They have many society acquaintances, professional colleagues and family attending the wedding and want a professional handling the planning and execution for their event.

Eileen : Happy clients are the best thing I have found to show my worth. However, I don’t work too hard at it because if I don’t focus on it, they will not either. I explain what the fee is, what they will receive for it and that it’s flat unless they dramatically change their needs. The price is the price. It’s worked well for 11 years.

How often do you have to recommend potential clients look elsewhere because their budget is too low?

Leticia : This happens all the time, and it’s okay. As much as we’d like to help every potential client that comes through our doors, it’s just not realistic.

We have an ideal client and we limit the number of events we take each year, so it’s crucial that we are booking the clients that fit our ideal profile. I’m happy to refer those clients we are not able to help to other planners who are a better fit for their budget. The potential client we are referring out is very grateful for this little piece of referral information. So, we may not be planning their wedding, but we’ve make a fan out of this potential client by giving away a small piece of helpful information.

Eileen : If I can't help them, I will always refer to someone new in the industry who I think is good and charges less as a result.

Social media rules the world right now, but do Pinterest/Facebook/etc. lead potential clients to you who are just not in the right budget range? How do you handle this?

Leticia : I don’t think we’ve really seen clients come from social media in this way. I still feel like even if a bride saw something she liked on our Facebook or Pinterest page, she would still visit our website and see what our starting prices are and then decide if we are a fit for her budget or not.

I think that new planners starting out need to understand who their ideal client is and understand her and her needs. This helps determine who's a good candidate as a client and what budget she has. This little bit of homework can help save a lot of time and headache with clients that are not good for your brand or your bottom line.

I also think all planners need to understand how to price themselves appropriately--understand what you want to make and what expenses you incur throughout the year and how this combination should be used in calculating your fee.

Most planners I know just pull random numbers that sound good out of the air and are accepted by clients. They really haven't calculated what they need to charge in order to make a decent profit and run their business like a successful business.

Eileen : I use all these but I haven’t noticed any specific issue with budget. Mostly they are just looking for general information--not real leads. I answer their questions, tell them about our services and see what happens.

Thank you for this little insight into the challenges faced by veteran wedding planners.

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

5 ways to cut your wedding budget

Weddings are expensive!
If your budget is becoming a nightmare, there are a few ways to trim the costs without sacrificing your dreams or the comfort of your guest.  

Trim your wedding guest list
Everytime you add a name to your guest list, you are increasing your budget significantly. Its not just the catering costs (i.e. hotel, restaurant, venue) but also the extra favors, centerpiece, invitations, cake, etc. Don't invite anyone you haven’t talked to in five years. Don't feel obligated to let single people bring a date unless it's a long-term partner or a fiancé and avoid feeling pressured to invite all your work colleagues. You can also decide to eliminate categories like “relatives more distant than first cousins” or casual friends, by not inviting anyone from these groups, you’ll help avoid hurt feelings.

 Have your cake and eat it
Wedding cakes can be a luxury, especially for a large guest list and if you have heart set on serving it as a dessert. Using the venue’s mock cake and dressing up the table or the cake with fresh flowers would be an option or think about having a smaller cake in your design and ordering less costly sheet cakes for serving.  

THE Dress 
Your wedding gown is often the easiest place to overspend – but also on the easiest area to trim costs. Take the time to shop around, look at bridal sales, rent from bridal shops or think about tailor making a simpler dress and use accessories and flowers to dress it up.  

Get Crafty- Do It Yourself
Throw a “pitch-in party” where you enlist the help of your bridal party and family to help you assemble favors; make invitations, centerpieces and other homemade inexpensive touches. From designing your own email save-the dates to self printed thank you cards, from hand written addresses to tying ribbons to your program booklets, the sky’s the limit to your D-I-Y session. Be sure to put out delicious snacks and inspiring tunes so that your friends feel like they’re at a party, not just part of an assembly line!  

Streamline your bar 
Instead of having a fully stocked bar, be imaginative and create a signature cocktail and serve 1-2 other alcoholic options for the dinner. This will drastically reduce alcohol cost and look chic at the same time. Negotiate with the venue for free corkage and opt to bring your own liquor, beer or wine from a supplier that would offer a consignment option. If you and your fiancé don't drink, consider having a dry wedding!

Don't ever forget the purpose of your wedding day: To Get Married! 

If you spend RM 5,000, you will be just as married as the couple that has spent RM 500,000. With the help of your wedding planner, you'll be surprised how planners can help you trim off the "fat" and keep you in-check with your budget.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Traditional Wedding Portraits in Myanmar

Traditional wedding portraits may be a thing of the past for most modern couples now, however, having been through one myself, I have to say, it is actually a lot of fun. Especially when you do it outside of your home country comfort zone.

Locals usually get pretty excited and proud when a foreign couple wishes to embrace their culture by donning traditional costumes and gear.

I'd particular encourage couples to do so - it's just 2 hour of photo studio fun :)

Read my personal account of the portraiture shoot in Myanmar here : http://www.midnitemessages.blogspot.com/

Meanwhile, enjoy these fun / funny photos :)

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